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An Interview with Richard Wagner, Ph.D.

Posted in adult, Richard Wagner with tags , , on January 6, 2009 by swingantho

Swing! caught up with Richard Wagner, Ph.D. , owner of Dr. Dick’s Sex Advice and Daddy Oohhh! Productions.

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You’ve been working in the sex field for over 25 years, primarily as a therapist. What are the biggest changes (if any) you’ve seen in this field over that time?

I have a two-word answer — The Internet. It’s changed just about everything to do with sex. Not always in a good way, but things will never ever be the same as they once were, before the internet.

People interact socially with one another in a fundamentally different way in the internet age. This is not necessarily an improvement over the way things use to be, but the potential for better is certainly there. Of course, the opposite is also true. The potential for more deception and prevarication also exists.

People are also losing face-to-face social skills. Text messaging and social networking (hook-up sites) seem to short-circuit the art of conversation. Which, to my mind, is one means of foreplay.

Information about sexuality is way more readily available to a vast number of people on the planet nowadays. Alas, not that everyone is taking advantage of the bonanza. But of course, with this explosion of information comes the inevitable proliferation of myths and misconceptions about sex.

The tag line for your column, Dr. Dick Sex Advice, is “Sex advice with an edge”. What gives your column its’ edge and how is it different from other sex advice columns?

I focus on human sexuality particularly as it intersects with art, religion, the popular culture, relationships, our health and wellbeing, entertainment, shopping and politics. Few if any of my professional peers take as wide an aim.

• As one would guess I respond to questions submitted to me online.
• I offer my advice in written form as well as in podcasts.
• My site is peppered with provocative imagery. I do not shy away from sexually explicit photos. This is a big no-no for other professional advice sites.
• I chat with interesting and controversial guests — authors, artists, sex workers, pundits and porn stars.
• I investigate the sexual underground and bring my audience fascinating people on the cutting edge of the sex-positive world.
• The Dr Dick Review Crew and I review adult products and talk with those who work in the adult novelty industry.
• I offer tips to my audience on staying healthy, enriching their sex life and growing their relationships.

And I do it all with a sense of humor.

Although people seem to be more open to talking about sex than in the past, are there any taboos? And what are a few of the most common questions you’re asked as a sex therapist and columnist?

Yeah, there are still plenty of taboos.

Some of my correspondents just want to see if they can get their question answered. I often hear from people who try to shock me. I pretty much can tell when someone is trying to pull my leg. Ya gotta give ’em credit for originality, but they’re not always so clever when it comes to presenting a plausible situation.

The most common questions I receive are about sexual performance issues, both from women and men. People may be more sexually active then ever before, but they often exhibit a tragic lack of even the most basic information about how their bodies work. This unfamiliarity with their own body only complicates their encounters with a partner.

Men are obsessed with the size of their dick and women are still faking it a lot. And that pretty much sums it up the state of thing for many in my audience.

What are the most important factors in creating a good, healthy sex life?

Affirm the fundamental goodness of sexuality, both as a personal need and as an interpersonal bond.

Sexual wellbeing is more than simply being able to perform. It is also taking responsibility for one’s eroticism as an integral part of one’s personality and involvement with others.

A basic working knowledge of one’s body and how it functions is essential; familiarity with one’s sexual response cycle — what’s pleasurable and what’s not; good communication skills; and a really big fat dildo.

Ok, so I made the last one up.

You also produce a line of gay porn, right? How in the world did you get involved in that?

I came to that in a most unorthodox fashion. It is certainly not something I ever aspired to do.

I was a Catholic priest for 20 years. (I am the only Catholic priest in the world with a doctorate in Clinical Sexology.) I completed my post-graduate work with the publication of my doctoral thesis concerning the sexual attitudes and behaviors of gay Catholic priests in the active ministry in 1981. This was unprecedented research back then (and even now, for that matter). There was a firestorm of international publicity. I was soon to be known as “The Gay Priest”. Like if I was the only one. Needless to say, this notoriety (some say infamy) effectively ended my priesthood. I fought the Vatican for the next 15 years, from 1981-1996, in an attempt to salvage my ministry, but in the end it was a lost cause. No surprise there, I suppose.

My career as a therapist in San Francisco coincided with the advent of HIV/AIDS (1981). My practice evolved into working primarily with sick and dying people. In the mid-90’s I founded a nonprofit organization, PARADIGM, Enhancing Life Near Death. It was an outreach for terminally ill, chronically ill, elder and dying people. This was brilliant cutting-edge work. Alas, I couldn’t find the funding to continue. This precipitated a rather sudden move to Seattle in 1999.

I continued to work with sick and dying people here, in Seattle. I started to develop programming for women newly diagnosed with ovarian cancer and men with prostate cancer. I wanted to create videos for people experiencing life threatening and/or disfiguring illnesses to help them deal with reintegrating sex and intimacy into their lives post diagnosis. I soon realized that I would need to fund this project on my own. No mainline foundation would touch the issue of sex. Faced with how I might do that, friends prevailed on me to start by making porn. I would make loads of money and I could then fund my heart’s desire. Thus Daddy Oohhh! Productions http://www.daddyoohhh.com/ was born.

Unfortunately, the “load of money” part has yet to materialize. But at the time, I figured that, since I was actually shooting porn, I would create projects that were different in style and tone from what currently rules the marketplace. The Daddy Oohhh line features a whole lot more romance, allure and seduction rather than just bumping parts.

Swing interviewer – Veronica Arch